How to Get Your Crush to Like You

Forming a Friendship

Be a supportive friend. The best relationships start as a strong friendship. Focus on being the best friend you can be by doing things like helping them when they’re in need, being an active listener, and showing your support whenever possible. Let your crush tell you all about their bad day, an exciting achievement, or whatever is on their mind. Try to be engaged and focused on them. Give them eye contact! Support them by doing things like cheering them on if they’re on the basketball team, helping them study for a test, or getting them a treat when they’re feeling down.

Find out what they’re passionate about. This includes things like music, sports, books, and hobbies. Finding out what types of things they love will give you something to talk about with them, and you might even find a common interest that you both share. For example, maybe they’re passionate about volunteering at a nursing home, sailing, and woodworking. Find out about their passions by asking them what they’re interested in, asking one of their friends, or looking at their social media profiles.

Ask questions about their interests and life. This is one of the best ways to show someone you’re interested while establishing a strong connection. Ask them about their family, pets, hobbies, or any other topic that helps you get to know them. This shows that you’re engaged and interested in their life. For example, you might ask them what they’d like to study in college, what the names of their pets are, or how they learned to play the guitar. Asking questions will likely encourage them to ask questions about your life in return so that you both get to know each other on a deeper level.

Listen when they talk to you. This means showing the signs of a good listener by looking at your crush when they’re talking and avoiding interrupting them. Try to remember things they’ve told you to show that you truly do listen and want to hear more of what they have to say. Show that you’re truly listening by making eye contact and nodding appropriately when they’re speaking to you. If you're speaking to them over text or social media, try to respond to their messages in a timely manner and give thoughtful responses. For example, if your crush told you they love a certain musician, you might let them know when that musician is performing near you to show that you were listening to their interests.

Spend lots of time with them. The more time you spend around someone, the more likely they are to develop an attraction to you. Try to hang out with your crush as much as possible, whether it’s in a large group, with just a few other friends, or alone. Try doing different activities when you’re with each other, like going to a movie, hanging out in a park with friends, or even just sitting together at lunch.

Portraying Your Best Self

Have good personal hygiene. This means doing things like brushing your teeth, showering, and putting on deodorant. Keep your body clean by washing your face daily and lathering with soap. When you take care of your body, you’ll look and feel more attractive. Wash your hair every couple of days, using conditioner after you shampoo if desired. Wear clean clothes daily to ensure you look and smell fresh.

Show them your playful and fun side. If your crush sees you having a good time, they’ll be more likely to want to spend time with you so they have fun too. Try telling your crush funny stories about yourself or just being laid-back and goofy around them to show your humorous side. Consider being playful and flirty by giving your crush a gentle shove or tap. Show off your wit or any jokes you know when you’re around your crush or over text.

Dress in clothing that shows off your style. Choose trendy clothes that you truly like and that fit your body well. Try not to wear certain clothes just because they’re in fashion or you think your crush would like them—pick out clothes you feel confident in and that mirror your personality. If you want to look fashionable and girly, find dresses or flowy tops in prints or patterns you like. Wear fitted jeans and a t-shirt with a picture of your favorite band or book on it to show your interests.

Maintain a level of mysteriousness. Instead of telling your crush everything about yourself at once, try to take it slow and let them learn about you in small tidbits. Constantly talking about yourself is going to overwhelm your crush. Instead, space out the information you tell them, making them want to hear more about you. If your crush asks you a question about your life like “What’s your favorite thing to do in your free time?” you could answer the question and then ask your crush a question to keep the conversation flowing naturally.

Be yourself! Try not to act differently or pretend to be interested in things you’re not just so that your crush will like you. When you’re being your true self, you’ll give off more confidence and energy than you would if you were faking it, making it more likely for your crush to be attracted to you. Stay true to yourself and don’t worry if your crush doesn’t realize how great you are. Share your passions with your crush to show them what you’re interested in and find out whether you have any common interests.

Using Body Language

Smile as often as possible. A smile will immediately brighten your entire look, making it a simple way to help attract your crush. Try to smile more often when you’re around your crush, even if you’re not directly talking to them. It will make you look and feel naturally happier! Smile at your crush if you see them in the hallway, or give them a smile when talking to them about their weekend plans. If you're texting your crush or using social media, try sending them a smiley face symbol or emoji.

Hold eye contact to show your interest. When your crush looks at you, hold their gaze for a few seconds and smile before looking away. This extra eye contact hints that you like them, and it may stir up feelings inside of them too. If you’re talking to your crush, look into their eyes as you’re speaking. If your crush notices you looking at them, hold the eye contact for a few seconds and give them a smile.

Lean in when you’re talking to them. This shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying or doing. Whether you’re sitting across from them at a table or standing a few feet from one another, try to lean towards them a couple of inches to show that you’re engaged. For example, if you’re sitting in class at separate desks, lean your body towards them when asking your crush a question or telling them about your day. Pointing your body towards someone is a signal that you’re attracted to them.

Pay attention to your posture. You’ll look more attractive and confident if you have great posture. Sit or stand up straight with your shoulders relaxed and back, and avoid crossing your arms in front of you. Avoid hunching over when you’re walking or sitting at a table.

Laugh at your crush's jokes. And as you are laughing, playfully and lightly hit your crush on the shoulder, this will let your crush know that you're paying attention to what he is saying. Don't overdo it though, as it will make you seem weird.