How to Interest a Girl

Interacting with Girls

Compliment her. Everyone loves to be complimented. It makes them feel good, and it shows to the woman you're talking to that you're interested in her. While you're talking to her, don't be afraid to pipe up and compliment her if you notice something you find interesting or attractive. Try not to focus exclusively on her looks, however. Saying something about her eyes or skin can be charming when the mood is right, but chances are she's heard it a hundred times before. A better compliment is something that reflects her personality. For instance, say something like: "You know, we've only been talking for a little while but it's obvious you're one of the smartest people in the room right now." It's very important to keep your compliments genuine. Most insincere compliments come off as forced or even insulting. Even if the girl believes you, you still want to be saying things you believe. Any following relationship would be built on a weak foundation otherwise.

Flirt. Flirting is an umbrella term for all of the subtle ways someone can show their romantic interest in somebody else. It requires being in the moment and having some confidence in your social abilities. Although there's not a step-by-step way to go about flirting, the basic idea begins with teasing. Smile lots, and make light jabs at something you observe about her. Work compliments into the conversation you're having with this girl, and keep the mood light.

Show your interest through light touching. Light touching is a tried and tested way of showing interest in a girl. Lightly placing your hand on a girl's arm or waist during a conversation implies you want to have physical contact with her. There is a certain level of plausible deniability in this sort of light touching as well. Although touching a face makes your feelings obvious, a touch on the shoulder or hand can be shrugged off easily if it doesn't go well. While you shouldn't force any kind of flirting, it can be interesting to see how the girl reacts when you first do it.

Treat her friends well. Girls tend to highly value their friendships, even more than guys do. With that in mind, you wouldn't be doing yourself any favours by not treating a girl's friends the way she hopes you would. Her friends' opinion of you will factor into her own judgement. Although she should be your first priority, don't be afraid to make friends with them too. Be careful not to get the wrong impression across with your kindness or compliments. Friendliness is a good thing, but don't let it look like you're romantically interested in her friends. This will make it look like you're trying to play the field, and nice girls don't like that at all.

Make her laugh. Humour is a man's best friend when it comes to getting a woman attracted. Even if you're not the best looking guy in the room, being able to tell a good joke can mean just as much, if not more to the way she sees you. Humour in this case is best when it's mixed in with flirting. If you notice something cute about her, try to make a light tease out of it. Make sure she knows you only mean it as a joke. For example, if the girl you're talking to just sneezes, you can smile and ask: "Do you need a tissue?" Smile widely and touch her lightly while you say this. This will distinguish the tease from a neutral question. It's easiest to be naturally funny if you're feeling comfortable with yourself. Don't let yourself get consumed by inner thoughts, and don't try to force yourself to be funny.

Remember to be polite and respectful. The way you treat a woman when you meet her can say a lot about the relationship the two of you could have. If you're acting like you care more about your own feelings than hers, she's probably not going to be interested in you. When you first meet someone, it's important to treat her with total respect. Even if it's not someone you're personally interested in, you never know who is watching. Being arrogant and bullheaded around fresh acquaintances isn't going to get you into anyone's good books. Don't confuse this with being a pushover. Contrary to what the pickup artists say, it doesn't actually hurt to be nice, but there's a difference between that and letting yourself get taken advantage of.

Looking Your Best

Attend to regular hygiene. Hygiene is a no-brainer if you want to look your best and interest a girl. Even if you're otherwise great looking, not keeping up with the basics ill make you look like a snob. Remember to brush or comb your hair, trim your hair and nails, wash your hair with shampoo and keep your skin reasonably moisturized. It's not necessary to go overboard with any of this, but you want to get the impression across that you care about the way you look.

Get proper sleep. Sufficient sleep has its effect on just about every part of life. If you're not sleeping enough, it's going to hurt the way you look and feel, not to mention your social graces. Most adults require between 7 and 9 hours, but you may need more or less depending on how strenuous your daily living is. It's also a good idea to try to sleep at the same time each night. Try to be awake for as much daylight as possible. This will make a considerable impact on your mood.

Express confident body language. A girl will usually be interested in a guy who looks like he carries himself well. This includes having strong posture and good physical presence. Make eye contact with whomever you're talking to. Jut out your shoulders while you're walking, and keep your back straight whenever you're walking, standing or sitting. All of these will draw more eyes (and interest!) toward you.

Exercise regularly. Exercise has a major effect on someone's appearance. If you have any issues with weight, making exercise a priority can help a lot. Whether you're aiming for cardio or weight training, any sort of exercise has the potential to vastly improve the way your body looks. What's more, exercising regularly will make you feel more confident and happier. When it comes to getting a girl interested, this has a huge effect.

Smile. A smile is the most natural and straightforward way of showing a range of positive feelings. Even if you're not saying anything to someone yet, you can show her how interested you are by making eye contact and smiling at her. The only thing to keep in mind is to make sure that it's natural. A contrived smile looks weird and creepy, and you're likely to scare people away with it.

Dress your best. Dressing well doesn't necessarily mean following fashion trends and whatever else. Instead, you should be focusing on the things that make you look great personally. Take some time to carve out a bold style for yourself. You can still be casual and make the most of the body you have. Look online at particular outfits and try to see which styles appeal most to you and your unique personality. It's also a good idea to dress to match the occasion. You'll stand out in a bad way if you're the odd one out in a crowd. While a lot of men overlook the importance of shoes, women don't. Don't forget footwear when it comes to redoing your personal style.

Developing a Positive Attitude

Develop confidence. Confidence is practically a no-brainer when it comes to attracting a girl. Virtually all women are interested in a guy who feels confident in himself and his abilities. As a general rule if you're confident, others will be confident in you as well. This can be a tough road depending on your current level of self-esteem, but it is possible if you put your mind to it. Keep your thoughts focused on positively, and don't be afraid to tell your brain to "Cut it out" if you start dwelling on negative thoughts. Make a list of things you're proud of. No matter how small or big, you should try to fill a page with things you've already done. Don't be modest in the slightest, and don't let yourself underrate the things you've done. Sometimes "faking it 'til you make it" can be a good option, especially if you have issues with social anxiety.

Develop a go-getter mentality. Being proactive will help your life in a lot of ways, and many of these will directly affect your chances with women. If you make a habit of leaping into opportunities as soon as they present themselves, you'll find your life becomes a lot busier. You'll have more chances to meet women if you're out doing things all the time and your life will seem more attractive. Don't depend on anyone but yourself to get the job done, whether you're talking about your job, hobbies or social life. Confidence is a natural bonus from being productive. If you struggle with confidence, you may find yourself feeling better once you set your sights on action. Procrastination is the enemy of all good things in life. Don't let any chances slip you by.

Be yourself. "Be yourself" is easiest the most common advice in self-help, but it still rings true in most cases. There's no one in the world you can be better than yourself. Even if you think you're not attractive enough to get a girl interested in you, you should never try to put on an act as someone you aren't. Rather, put that energy towards being the best version of yourself you can be. Take time to think about what defines you as a person, and work on doing things that maximize your best traits. Being yourself is very sage advice if you're on the dating scene. If you try to be someone you're not, you'll probably end up interesting a different sort of woman than the type you want.

Having an Interesting Lifestyle

Follow your passion. There's nothing so interesting as a person who feels consumed by an interest. In this day and age, it's so easy to lose sight of the things that are most important to us. It's really important to make the time for a hobby or creative pursuit. The most attractive men are the ones who don't let their goals get brushed aside for anything. Having that identity outside of your regular job or social life can mean a ton when it comes to a healthy lifestyle.

Pursue the job you've always dreamed about. Especially as people age, they begin to be associated with the jobs they have. While changing your job may seem impossible, it can totally transform the life you currently have. Think about what you'd always like to do, and take active steps towards making it a reality each day, whether it's building a certain skill or looking at job postings. Make sure your dream has some bearing on reality. Things aren't going to magically fall into your lap, but they will come in time if you set your mind to it. This isn't so important if you're young. Young adults and teenagers aren't expected to have their lives all figured out. However, it can help your chances with women if you're doing something that's interesting to talk about.

Break out of your daily routine. Even if you love your life, chances are you fall into a fairly predictable day-to-day grind of work, rest and play. It can do you a lot of good to break out of that and try something new. If there's a new hangout that just opened up, check it out. Try a different way to drive home from work. Do something unpredictable. This can require more thinking than you might think at first, but it's totally worth it for the sake of a more attractive lifestyle. It may be helpful to reflect upon your life as you do this. Try to recognize the things you take for granted. From there, you can see what you can do to shake them up a bit.

Read a lot. Reading may seem like a boring, passive activity to some people, but a lot of people with the most interesting lives always set time aside for it. Reading can benefit your life in all sorts of ways. You'll learn more, have a better understanding of the world, and have more to talk about in a conversation. All of this can lead to a more interesting life, and it goes without saying that being more interesting will help out your chances with women.

Find opportunities to socialize. Everyone feels happier when they're socializing on a regular basis. That includes introverts and shyer sorts as well! If you spend your downtime in the company of other people, you'll end up having a lot more interesting stories to tell before long. In the context of getting a girl interested, socializing lots will increase your chances of meeting someone, and you'll feel more at peace in talking to a girl you really like.

Keep a record of your activities. When it comes to socializing or anything else, it can help to keep track of the things you're doing in life. Try to compare that record with an ideal scheme of the life you'd like to have. For example, if you're shy, make a goal of going out and record each time you do. This same recordkeeping technique works for other things in life as well, such as job hunting and skill building. Consistency is always the goal, and if you stick with a lifestyle pattern long enough, it'll eventually become your routine. One journal entry may look like this: "For the month of February, I'd like to go out and spend time with people at least 5 times."