Experts Weigh In On Why People Repeatedly Choose Wrong Partners

One of the famous quotes is that love is blind. It often makes us see our partner through rose-coloured glass, ignoring their red flags. Dating the wrong person can affect our self-esteem and make us feel depressed. Judging a person on a first date is quite difficult. So we frequently meet them to understand their choices and habits to determine our suitability with them. But most of the time we end up choosing the wrong partner in our life. After a person surpasses the threshold of their suffering, they tend to create distance; in the worst cases, they end up in a breakup or divorce. In most cases, people tend to repeat the mistake of choosing the wrong partner in their life. In such a situation, Mumbai’s famous psychiatrist and sexual health expert Dr Sagar Mundada tries to scientifically explain the reasoning behind such decisions.

While citing an example of watching horror films in childhood, Dr Sagar Mundada claims that our brains are often attracted towards familiar feelings rather than the right ones. If a child watches horror films in childhood and after growing up they come across different genres like action, comedy and romance, the high chances are that you will be drawn towards horror films only as it has already been registered in your brain. This happens in our relationships too. Dr Sagar Mundada claims that “if in childhood you felt ignored in your relationships, you were not given time, your feelings were not given importance, then gradually you become familiar with it.”

The kind of relationships we see around in our childhood, we tend to develop the same kind of relationships because our brain considers them as our own. In such a situation, our friends and colleagues who often advise us about our wrong relationship can understand the red flags in our partner which we are unable to detect or look at. “If we talk about the brain, remember that the human brain is always attracted to those things which seem familiar to it and not towards those which are right for it,” added Dr Sagar Munda. It is said that children have a very soft mind and it is important for them to get the right environment at their home from the beginning.